any update?

link text and here is your link to optifine

is it your internet cause that is my problem all the time?

I am sorry. =/ could be your computer maybe. If you are playing from a laptop try going some where with resonable good wifi and see how it does. I have AT&T uverse. I never had problems with it when i was on my own but the uverse at my parents has major issues. Basically i am supposed to have good internet but i don't.

I only get timing out whenever I have bad internet, after 2-3 tries I am able to get in

Inb4 Have you tried turning it off then on again?

I couldn't connect to servers either, I'm not an expert but sometimes the easiest things are the most effective , try just restarting your router as I did (remember I had the same problem? And I made a thread just like this) so yes, sometimes my routers gets glitchy when it is used no stop 24/7, soo, may you wanna switch it off for a bit?
When I had your same problem I tried many things as downloading again Minecraft etc etc, (shootout to everyone who helped me in the past with my connection issue) but yea I ended up raging and punching my router... And it actually worked soon, why not!
If it doesn'r work, I'll try to come up with something else!